LOVE OR MONEY: WHICH COMES FIRST?

Love a very universal human language, and also a universal feeling.  We feel love anywhere and everywhere, for someone or everyone. In this publication we’ll be looking at Love and Money in relationships amongst couples and lovers.

Love is a strong feeling of affection, a feeling of strong conviction that someone feels the same way we do.  Unfortunately, in our world of today love has been redefined with exceptions, and variables you would say.  Some examples of variables we can say age, money, tribe, and so on....  But we will be looking at a very and more crucial issue- Love and Money.

Today love is usually equated with money, in other words, no money, no love.  By surprise this definition of love is the common trend these days. I have talked with people who said she can’t go out with a guy who can’t or don’t have money (spend money in the sense of Luxury), and it got me thinking if there were no anomalies maybe guys of average class won’t even get a chance to go on a date talk less of being in a relationship.  I am not saying money is  not essential in a relationship, in fact it matters, but what am stressing is that Love is not synonymous to money.  Love is not conditional like Money; love is not limited like money, reason because you can love with or without money.  Stating it mathematically Love is not directly proportional to money or statistically, Love cannot be quantified with money, and also scientifically cannot be measured by money.  But humans as we are always expect too much of and from ourselves.  For instance a guy will want to have money in the sense of a fat purse before he thinks he can go out with a girl.  The girl on the other hand will want to look too expensive thereby setting a high standard.

Love or Money:  Which comes first? The answer to this question is not unanimous, I mean different folks different strokes, but we should take note to every argument there are three sides; the wrong side, the right side, and your own side.  On my own side money is necessary, essential, and important, it is a means of responsibility and obligation to the person you love because frankly everyone needs money.  I want to be comfortable and would want my girl to be too but more than that, Love is what matters.  It is out of love, that we always desire to be what our partners want us to be.  It’s because of Love we make sure we get or have that Money.  TRUE, money is essential and important, TRUTH, love is the ultimate and principal thing.  Unlike love, money comes and it goes as it’s popularly said ‘money come, money go’.  That’s why it’s not always a good foundation when going into a relationship.  In the event all is lost (money), what will become of us if the basis of our loving was cemented on money, or rather if it is cemented with true love!

We can liken love to a foundation or plan of a house and money to be the pillars that are placed on the foundation to hold/support other attachments.  At some point these pillars might shake or sometimes crumble.  Believe me those times come, but what we should note is that the Foundation remains and upon that we can rebuild.  In a nutshell that’s the difference between love and money.  Now imagine it the other way around, first the pillars then the foundation on top of it.  When it crumbles the foundation falls too and all is lost, there goes a broken relationship.